Back-to-School Prayer
Our boys started their sophomore and senior years in high school last Wednesday, but this is their first full week back. As I’ve thought about all of their commitments and their development in 2024-2025, these desires for them rise out of Psalm 90:14-17, and this is what I pray:
Satisfied Hearts: “Satisfy Gradyn and Jace in the morning with your unfailing love…” because there is so much offered to them that will only leave them empty, longing, and unfulfilled.
Singing Mouths: “...that they may sing for joy and be glad all their days. Make them glad for as many days as you have afflicted them, for as many years as they have seen trouble…” May the hard times be displaced by the joy they find in you so that instead of overhearing teenage complaints, negativity, and sarcasm, our ears catch them singing in the shower.
Saturated Eyes: “May your deeds be shown to your servants, your splendor to Gradyn and Jace…” Our eyes roam in search of splendor. Shield their eyes with the bright light of your presence and actions, so they’re more amazed by you than by anything else.
Steadied Hands: “May the favor of the Lord our God rest on them; establish the work of their hands for them- yes, establish the work of their hands.” Only by your grace can their effort this year mean anything. Let what they do make a difference in the direction of their lives, others’ lives, and for eternity.
May it be so.
Parenting: a halftime report
Our church has been going through a series this summer in the book of Proverbs, and last Sunday morning, Nate & I had the privilege of sharing what God has taught us up to this point in our parenting journey.
Although we still have a long way to go in wisdom as parents, this is what we’ve gained so far :) We looked back in time to our earliest days and dug down to the foundations of parenting, so if you’re a young mom or dad, maybe the formative lessons we’ve learned along the way can be a resource for you.
You can watch here. Click sermon archives, The Narrow Path, July 28.
Some of our favorite books to read as a family with toddler to elementary-age boys:
Thoughts to Make Your Heart Sing
With love, Cherith
For the college-bound
Inspired by Proverbs 3:1-6
We’re in the season of making college visits with our oldest son, so when I came to Proverbs 3 in my devotions, all I could think about was when his actual send-off comes next year. I’ll need as much help as I can get on that day, and these six verses prompted me to parallel each one with what I’d say if I wasn’t sobbing my eyes out…so maybe a letter, tucked between layers of clothes in his suitcase, would be better. I’d write it like this:
My son,
Keep this instruction in your heart:
Those phrases I repeated every time you walked out the door
and those things I’ve said about the kind of lifestyle that’s best - remember it all!
You’ll experience a better life and a more peaceful one if you do.
I’ve tried to follow my own advice, and now it’s your turn. (v.1,2)
Carve these initials on your heart:
L+F. They’re together forever.
Love + Faithfulness go hand in hand like an aged couple
with decades of character between them.
These qualities, straight out of God’s heart,
form the foundation of all lasting relationships, between God and you
and between you and others. (v. 3,4)
Trust the Lord with your heart:
You might feel grown up and like you understand everything (at least, I did at your age)
but don’t just live by your instincts or your best guess.
Instead, with every decision ahead of you, talk to God. Ask Him.
You’ll be surprised at how He makes the unclear, clear
and the crooked, straightened out. (v.5,6)
Of course, there’s more I could say, but if you’re intentional about what you do in, on, and with your heart, you’ll be off to a good start.
With love,
Mom
Outlasting the Last Days, 1 John 2:15-27
I’ve been to a few graduation parties this summer…
I’ve been to a few graduation parties this summer, and I always smile at the snapshots that do their best to capture 18 years of a student’s life up to that point. From chubby baby to present day, so much has happened, and so much has changed! If I know the graduate well enough, this is the moment my eyes well up quite enough.
At one party, we were given a slip of paper and asked to put a piece of advice for the graduate into a jar. Hmm. I immediately try to summarize just one single, memorable lesson from my life that might be helpful in theirs. What’s the message from me to them as they go out into the world? Because the world certainly has a message for them. If the world strutted into their grad party, it would throw into the jar all the advice it has ever given to billions of graduates across time:
Put yourself first.
Take whatever looks good.
Find security in success.
It’s a message that defines everything about the world, and, upon examination, it’s a message all about what to love. Paul explained the kind of love people would have in the last days, and it sounds strikingly similar to John’s description of the world:
Love of self
Love of pleasure
Love of money
Why is love spoken of with such caution - to the young, to the old, to graduates? Because, what we love takes us along with it for a shared future. If the world can direct our love, it will direct our steps into its own destiny. Illustrating individually what John warned corporately, Paul grieved that Demas “loved this present world”, and it resulted in his desertion of the faith. He didn’t last, because he chased what couldn’t last. To love the world is to reject the Father’s love, most clearly understood in Christ. No one can have the Father’s love without the Son, the only way to the Father. John says that taking an anti-Christ position reveals a lack of belief in the heart from the beginning and also that the world’s expiration date is near.
Since the world isn’t forever, don’t love what doesn’t last.
But the Spirit lasts forever, present in a life from the very beginning of someone embracing Christ, and He is the ultimate teacher regarding who Jesus truly is. His original and genuine gospel message joins believers forever to the Son and to the Father; anyone who teaches something additional or alternate is a counterfeit. In Christ, God’s promise of eternal life becomes personal everlasting life, because He takes us along with Him for a shared future.
And so, graduate, as you go out into the world, love what lasts.
A Personal Intro to 1 John
Have you ever been confused…
Have you ever been confused by religious words you hear from someone that don’t match the lifestyle you see them live? Has that deconstructed your personal faith? Maybe it’s all fake.
Or when your own missteps fall short of what you say you believe, have you hidden in the darkness for fear of being discovered, by people or by God? Have you ever doubted whether you actually believed in the first place? Maybe I’m the fake. How can I know for sure what’s real?
As a teen, I struggled with whether my salvation was real. I used to lie sleepless in bed, tormented by the thought that my faith as a child, when I first confessed that I needed Jesus to be my Savior, may not have been complete enough to seal my eternity in heaven. Were there words I was missing or something I didn’t know that I needed to believe or do or pray? Was there a way to know for sure that the promise of eternal life was real for me?
Most who have had doubts like mine, can’t usually remember the first time they heard the name “Jesus”, because it was in utero and every day after that. Kids who grow up learning the Gospel from the very beginning and then place their faith in Christ at young ages, don’t experience the radical life-change that creates dramatic reports from missionaries or garners applause from church crowds. Drastically changed lives are powerful testaments of God’s grace, to be sure, but a child might wonder whether Christ is real in their own lives if He didn’t rescue them from drugs or jail by age 5. Back then, I didn’t realize the grace it is to know Christ early in life, or the privilege it was to have a dad who could introduce my doubts to 1 John.
As it turns out, the question of Is it real?, isn’t isolated to 21st century Christianity. It’s been asked since the time John wrote this 5-chapter book, addressing a people close to his heart, who, for various reasons, had doubts about their faith. Words and life were mismatched, deception and self-deception threatened, sin was detected, and their confidence was shaken.
The book opens, not with a testimony of how Christ changed John’s life, but with the reality of Christ’s life itself as the basis for our faith. Jesus wasn’t a hologram or optical illusion, so neither was the life he promised. In Christ, eternal life was made audible, visible, observable, and touchable. He was eternal life in real life, and the rest of the book is what His eternal life in us looks like in real life.